You’ve made it! You have a responsible practicing teen that only needs occasional reminders. So why does the teacher encourage you to keep coming to the lesson and what are you going to do while you are there?
Your roll as Suzuki parent has changed quite a bit over the years. You’ve gone from practice partner to practice supporter. You no longer have to worry about them rolling on the floor during lesson or dropping the violin because of distraction.
However, you still have an important roll towards the development of your child.
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I want to start this out by saying, this varies greatly among parents and teachers, so your first thing to do is talk to your teacher. They probably have some good reasons for either wanting you in the lesson or out of the lesson. As a teacher, I’ve personally gone both ways. I’ve had times where the parent doesn’t come, but I’ve also had times where the parent never stops attending lessons.
So let’s say your teacher still wants you to come, but you feel like it’s unnecessary. Here are a few reasons that it may be helpful for you to continue to attend.
I think this is the top reason. Your teen may seem like they are pushing you further away and wanting to break out on their own, but teens still need the support of the parent. Just like with young children, showing your support is best when it’s specific. That brings us to our second reason it is good to keep coming to your teen’s lesson.
Having Knowledge of What is Important
The best way to give specific support is to really know what they are working on. That way you can let them know when you see they are working hard on something. Make sure it’s a specific task or hurdle instead of a general good job. Everyone (even if the balk at it) likes their hard work being acknowledged. Having knowledge of what is important can also help you know important events going on with the studio as well as giving you specific ways to help remind your teen when something needs to get done.
I feel like this quote (even though it’s about young children) still has the correct sentiment. It’s about appreciating the small and big. Being involved in the everyday events of your teen’s life helps them to open up when they are facing life’s challenges.
So what does a parent do during the lesson? Again, this is going to depend a lot on your teacher. You could still be helping with note taking. You could also be just sitting, relaxing and reading a book. Just being there shows your support and how you think music lessons are important.
Either way, what you’re really doing during the music lesson is showing your child that you care.
Thanks for joining me on this Adventure in Suzuki Parenting and happy practicing!